What I see now about chronic symptoms, missed patterns, and the cost of waiting

I sent this to my newsletter readers in March 2026. It belongs here too. This is part of my why.

My uncle died last week.

He was 65. He’d been struggling with diabetes and heart trouble and kidney stuff for years… all hallmarks of a body in chronic energy crisis, the very thing I work with clients on.

I’d reached out to him a time or two.

We weren’t close.

He couldn’t see well (the eyes are very sensitive to low energy states).

I used my mom as the telephone most of the time because I didn’t even have his number. I’d sent him snail mail a time or two. He’d read a few of my articles. He saw himself in them… struggling his whole life with the effects, the symptoms of low energy. He wasn’t quite sure what to do with what he read. He took them with him to his doctor.

The perspective fell on deaf ears. Not that I could blame the doctor. Educated within a system that’s gaslighted us all to believe the body is broken and symptoms must be managed.

When my mom called the week before last to tell me he was unresponsive and had been admitted into hospice care, I got really curious.

What could I have done differently?

What would have convinced him to implement some of the basic nutrition changes I often recommend for clients?

To be sure he was giving his body the necessary nutrients it needed to make hormones. To give the body what it needed to bridge the energy gap. To guide him through the very path I'd carved out for myself.

What kept me from doing that?

The more I thought on this the more I saw all the ways, all the missed opportunities, all the times I was scared to reach out, scared to push, scared to ask for something as simple as his phone number.

What would that have cost me?

I still can’t answer these questions.

But, the more I thought about all of these things the more I began to see parallels within my own community. To the people who have said it’s okay for me to reach out. To you. I realized I haven’t even been present enough, visible enough, verbal enough with the reminders “hey, this is what I do.”

I started thinking about all the clients I have worked with over the past few years.

The ones who reached out to me when I first launched into this work when I was cultivating theory, planting seeds, watching saplings begin to grow, before the orchard burst into bloom.

I thought about how much more I know now that I didn’t know even then. About how with each passing day I was letting these past clients down by not reaching out again to ask...

“Hey, as impossible as this may sound, I have a lifetime more of insight than I had the last time we worked together.

Is there anything you're still struggling with? Have any new symptoms popped up? If so, let me help.”

I thought about how devastated I was, how desperate I was when I began piecing all of this together for myself.

• Back when I was struggling with insomnia for the first time in my life,

• a headache at least once weekly and so severe my right eye streamed water,

• a time when my very real fear that I was exhibiting signs of early dementia paled in comparison to the chronic UTI symptoms (even though my urine cultures were negative).

I thought of how quickly my symptoms disappeared as I began acting on my own intuition. How fast insight expanded as I gained momentum in my own journey.

And, then the dam broke.

The thought “what if I didn’t have me?” had just crossed my mind.

And, in that instant I felt the coldness.

Of struggling with symptoms.

Of being told my labwork is fine.

Of being referred to a specialist because the current physician wasn’t sure what was going on.

Of being told “this is my life now and I’m just going to have to live with it.”

Of being handed a prescription I knew wasn’t right for me.

As if there were no other option.

Of the deep knowing that I could not continue on the path I was on.

It led to death.

I can recall all of it because I lived it. I remember what it was like to be handed a script I was convinced would kill me. I was told it was the way out of chronic UTI symptoms.

I remember being so shaken and so desperate, feeling so abandoned by this system I had trusted my entire life...

That I finally listened to my own intuition.

I remember the day I thought I was losing my ever loving mind, going down the path of early dementia when grace stepped in taking the form of my friend Jen.

I remember the thousands of seemingly inconsequential moments, the mornings struggling with that raw histamine-y feeling after breakfast, the liver congestion backing up into the right side of my head, the symptoms that “couldn’t possibly all be linked”, the downloads at 2 am, spirit whispering “this is why…”

I’m not saying I have all the answers. I’m saying for whatever reason I’ve been gifted with this very particular perspective that’s helped me break free of more symptoms than anyone should have to experience in a lifetime.

I know what I do and how I work and the insights I have help others too or past clients wouldn’t still be working with me, women from across the country wouldn’t have bothered taking time to write to me saying that one article I wrote helped them.

I know that not having all the answers is part of why I hesitate to talk to you about this more often. The imposter syndrome, still having some of the symptoms I most wish would go away.

Not being able to accept that I am both still wounded and also wildly capable of helping others unlock what I believe is the most precious treasure on the planet… wellness.

Not being willing to admit that I’m human and allow myself grace for not knowing… while trusting that what I already know is enough.

It seems my own humanity has held me back from not talking about this more, and right now as I type, spirit’s leading.

I can’t go back and do this differently with my uncle.

But I can do it differently here.

If you’re reading this and you know something isn’t right, if you’ve been told to wait, to manage, to live with it, don’t.

Let’s actually look at what’s going on.

I'm offering a 90-minute deep dive (virtual or in-person) where we connect the dots between your symptoms, your history, and your existing lab work through the lens that finally helped me understand what was happening in my own body.

Before we meet, I review your labs to find patterns that mean something to me:

• where energy production is breaking down,

• what’s likely contributing to that breakdown,

• and what's getting missed when everything is looked at in isolation instead of as part of the whole body.

Then during our session, we walk through the terrain together.

We connect the dots. And we map out what your body actually needs.

You’ll walk away with:

• clarity around your symptoms

• a grounded understanding of what your body needs

• and a 14-day stabilization protocol designed to help you stop managing symptoms and start feeling well again

If this feels like the post you were meant to read, book your session here.

Once you book, I'll personally reach out to you to gather your labs and begin planning the path before we even meet.

You don’t have to keep living like this.

Until next time,

Brandy

P.S. If you’ve ever felt like your symptoms don’t fully make sense, or you’ve been told your labs are “normal” but your symptoms are not, this is exactly who I work with.